Posts Tagged ‘Sex’

When Good Sex Goes Bad

November 12, 2009

We have all had them in life… the “buddy” that only stays around because the sex is good.  Every time we get out of a semi-meaningful relationship, they are the first person we call.  It helps us to forget about what we are now out of and helps us to feel good and sexy again.  Plus, there is just something to be said about good sex making you forget about everything else in life.

But what happens when you get together that one time… and the sex is no longer good?  It never fails that one person becomes dissatisfied with the sex before the other.  How do you let the other person down gently?  You don’t want to criticize their skills in the sack.  But you are also no longer interested in hooking up with them.

But then the question becomes this: do you pass off the one bad time as a fluke?  Was it just a bad day?  Or is it something that will continue if you get together again?  And, are you even willing to get together with them again?  If the only reason you meet up with them is because the sex is good, and it no longer is, then is it worth seeing them anymore?

Unfortunately there is no gentle way to let someone know that you no longer want to be their buddy.  If you have moved in to a new relationship, it is quite simple.  But if you just don’t want to see them anymore, what can you do?  For a while, you can turn them down saying you have other plans and that you are busy.  But you can only be busy for so long.  In the end you have to explain to them that you are no longer interested in sleeping with them.  If only they made a Hallmark card for that…

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Irreconcilable (Sexual) Differences.

September 27, 2009

There comes a point in every person’s life when they have bad sex.  Maybe it was awkward, or you have a different style than the other person.  Maybe they simply didn’t know what they were doing, or you were unable to communicate exactly what you wanted from them.

But what happens when you have tried patiently to explain what you like and what you don’t and the person simply doesn’t pay attention?  This situation becomes even worse when the other person claims that the sex is the best they have ever had. Is this something that can be conquered in a relationship?  If one person is unhappy with the sex, is it something that can be simply overlooked after time?  Will feelings for the other person overcome the lack of physical desire?  Or will it turn in to bitter resentment that one person is satisfied and the other isn’t? (more…)

The "Sexth" Sense.

June 23, 2009

All women have gotten that text. The one from that guy. The one we haven’t heard from in ages, but that is conveniently timed within hours of our most recent breakup that hasn’t yet been advertised. Or the phone will ring, and it will be Mr. Almost-perfect-if-only-he’d-actually-pick-up-the-phone-and-call-once-in-a-while. He’ll wait until that precise moment that you’ve decided to get over him because you kind of like this new guy you’re seeing, and then he will pick up the phone and call. (more…)

Is Sex the New "I Love You?"

June 5, 2009

It took me one night of drunken passion between friends (which should never really be told outside ‘the circle of trust’), to come to a harsh reality.

“Phil, I think you’re too mature for your own age.” Too mature!?

Then it took me almost a year or so to finally realize that maybe that statement is truer than Jesus doing the Charleston. Being 22, I have only been in one serious relationship which lasted for three years. I attempted to jump back into the dating scene, but all three dates suffered from a lack of chemistry, or simply ending before they began. (more…)

I Have a Nice Rack But No One Wants to Touch It: Confessions of a Sexually Starved "Hottie."

May 20, 2009

I have a nice rack. It’s basically a fact. And that rhyme is whiggity wack! Okay all joking aside:  Being in possession of said nice rack from the tender age of 13 I must admit I have misused it from time to time, yes sometimes it can be a crutch and used for the powers of evil!  By evil, of course I mean getting things for free that other less fortunate women not in possession of a nice rack must pay for: Drinks, free oil changes, backstage passes (yes I am serious),  free Starbucks (yes coffee!). Oh the list could go on and actually it does go on. So logic would dictate that if nothing else, my rack would allow me to excel in the dating world and in turn in the hot loving/make out world. It’s really a simple mathematical equation: If B (breasts) then C (copious making out). (more…)