Making Plans

November 6, 2009

Somewhere along the lines, I heard what I think is a great piece of dating advice.
Never make plans for the future that are further in the future than your past together.

In other words, if you’ve been dating for a week, don’t make plans past next week. If you’ve been dating for three months, don’t make plans more than 3 months in the future.

Its a great rule of thumb to keep yourselves from getting too far ahead of yourselves, and I think it makes you less likely to buy that plane ticket to Thailand that you might regret after you learn more about the person you’re dating. It also keeps you from freaking the other person out with stuff that isn;’t first date material – i.e. until you’ve actually raised a child and sent him off to college, don’t talk about taking your grandkids to Disney. I’ve never seen anyone go that far, but I have known people to get way ahead of themselves.

Relax, enjoy the natural progression of things.


How do You Deal with Your Significant Other's Best Friend of the Opposite Sex?

November 5, 2009

This is a topic that, surprisingly, I don’t tend to discuss a lot with my friends.  I say “surprisingly” because most anyone that knows me knows that I feel that true friendships between men and women can’t exist without some sort of latent attraction, which has the potential to “blow the whole thing up!”  Needless to say, I’m likely in the minority on that opinion.  However, the thing that intrigues me is how a couple regards each others’ best friends, if they’re of the opposite sex.  Is there some dynamic to worry about?  Do you protest the friendship?  Do you limit how often your partner hangs out with their best friend?  What do you do? Read the rest of this entry »

Is That the Smell of Defeat or Week Old Undergarments? Ew.

November 4, 2009

Hopefully you’ve never been in the position to ask your date/mate “What is that acrid stench?”  aka “What stinks???”  I really hope that you haven’t been the answer to that question either.  I was reminded the other day of a couple gals that I dated where there were some bad hygiene related issues. Read the rest of this entry »

How Do You Deal With Your Baggage?

November 3, 2009

Baggage.  It’s not a term left for your carry-ons anymore.  Baggage is a term used to describe people with lingering issues.  It can mean any number of things.  It could refer to someone who’s still hung up on an ex after a bitter split.  It could be someone who has an arm growing out of their forehead… From body mutations, emotional asphyxiation, to physical exasperation, baggage is something we all consider before we “get serious” with someone and if one doesn’t then they should. Read the rest of this entry »

How Do Men & Women Remember a Relationship?

October 30, 2009

I was out with a female friend of mine not too long ago.  We were talking about relationships and what not.  We took up the topic of the things that we remember about relationships and what meaning we derive from them.  I found this discussion intriguing because, well, I’d never really thought too much about it.  So how do men and women view relationships in retrospect, when all is said and done? Read the rest of this entry »

The 8 Minute Dating Experiment Part 2: The Dates

October 29, 2009

As I’d mentioned in my last post I had gone to a speed dating event.  Let me tell you, it was interesting.  It was pretty much what I expected and it tested my ability to strike up conversations with strangers and keep things moving with women that, well, were challenging.  All in all it was a pretty positive experience and I’d do it again, I think.  That said, how did my night go?  Oh and the names have been changed to protect the not so innocent. Read the rest of this entry »

Online Dating Tips for Women from Stacey Moroney.

October 28, 2009

I noticed that I had a new follower on the @theurbandater account from Stacey Moroney @the1thatuwant.  I took a look to read the content on her blog and found some great nuggets of information for online dating for the guys and gals.  I figured I’d take the liberty of listing some her content here, since I liked it so much.

Without further ado, here are just a couple of Stacey Moroney’s online dating tips.
(To see the rest of her tips please go to the original article)

TheOneThatYouWant Top 10 Tips for Online Dating:

To help you find Mr or Mrs Right in the world of Online Dating we have broken down the Top 10 Online Dating Advice tips to help increase your success in the world of Online Dating so you can date smarter and safer and meet TheOneThatYouWant!

1. Take time to write a careful winning online profile. Be open and honest about yourself, what’s the point in lying the truth will come out eventually. You wouldn’t want other people to mislead you online so don’t do it to other.

2 Describe the person that you would like to meet in detail. If you want to date someone who has never been married with no children, say so.

IM Confessionals: Breaking Up is Hard to Do.

October 27, 2009

So the other night I had a conversation with a friend of mine I’m yannibmbr, obviously, and she’s fallingstarsncards and the chat went a little like this: Read the rest of this entry »

What Women (really) Want.

October 26, 2009

I recently read a book about unveiling the mystery of a woman’s soul and I gleaned some good dating tips in the process. Basically the book states that there are 3 things every woman’s soul longs for: to be pursued, to feel beautiful and be part of an adventure. I happen to identify with these desires and I figured I would elaborate a bit on the topic to help the men out a bit. Read the rest of this entry »

The 8 Minute Dating Experiment.

October 23, 2009

MissC had written about her speed dating experiences not too long ago.  It’s something that I’ve been trying to do for a while now but for some reason or other it’s just never happened.  Speed dating was quite the fad and wildly popular around these parts not so long ago.  While this dating mechanism isn’t as popular as it once was, it still draws in a large number of people and there are a number of organizations that still put speed dating events together.  That said, I’m attending one today… How does one prepare for the occassion? Read the rest of this entry »