Archive for the ‘For Women’ Category

How Do Men & Women Remember a Relationship?

October 30, 2009

I was out with a female friend of mine not too long ago.  We were talking about relationships and what not.  We took up the topic of the things that we remember about relationships and what meaning we derive from them.  I found this discussion intriguing because, well, I’d never really thought too much about it.  So how do men and women view relationships in retrospect, when all is said and done? (more…)

On Opposite Sides.

September 11, 2009

Opposites attract but do they stay together? Relationships that last are generally based on common interests, goals, values and ambitions. Attraction is essential but without the emotional and intellectual connection there can’t be much depth to a relationship. When dating we are putting the best version of ourselves out there. We are dressed to impress, we are polite, we are on our best behavior in the hope that we can go on a second date with this person if all goes well. But beyond the looking good and light first date conversation there are the real issues that need to be addressed before a relationship can continue. Typically the heavy issues such as religion, politics, children and the future are off limit topics for the early stages of dating. While I somewhat agree with that, how long do these topics need to be avoided? (more…)

Common Courtesy.

July 5, 2009

“When did common courtesy become so uncommon?”

When it comes to dating there are some instances where courtesy is lacking. Maybe women have lowered their expectations and that’s why when a man holds open the door for us we are surprised. Or when a guy has enough guts to tell us he isn’t interested we are taken aback. (more…)

Here's to You Mrs. Robinson: Why I Could Get Used to Dating Younger Men.

June 28, 2009

If you would have ever told me six months ago I would find myself sitting across from a 26 year old in a brightly colored diner sipping Strawberry Malts on a Friday night I would have rolled my eyes at you and probably added a snort/laugh in for good measure. Don’t get me wrong, like every other blue blooded American girl I love myself a good diner and Strawberry Malt what I have never even considered before was younger men. Because dammit I wanted stability and no drama/games, I wanted an adult relationship. I kept this mantra in my head for months. Months of going out on bland dates. Months of not hearing from people for days at time. Months of last minute changes. And yes months of non making out (refer to “I have a nice rack but no one wants to touch it” article). (more…)

The "Sexth" Sense.

June 23, 2009

All women have gotten that text. The one from that guy. The one we haven’t heard from in ages, but that is conveniently timed within hours of our most recent breakup that hasn’t yet been advertised. Or the phone will ring, and it will be Mr. Almost-perfect-if-only-he’d-actually-pick-up-the-phone-and-call-once-in-a-while. He’ll wait until that precise moment that you’ve decided to get over him because you kind of like this new guy you’re seeing, and then he will pick up the phone and call. (more…)

Can Men and Women be Friends? A Female Perspective.

June 20, 2009

I have discussed this topic with two men recently and they both seemed to have the same point of view on the topic. Women and men can be friends but one person is always going to be attracted to the other even if the attraction is long harbored or fleeting. I think that is absolutely absurd. And yes I have reason’s to back it up. My point of view, yes women and men can be just friends in the most platonic sense of the word. (more…)

Dating Tips & Quips.

June 7, 2009

Shamefully I admit that I was fascinated by the VH1 show “The Pick Up Artist”. Basically some guys who have good game teach several nerdy, socially handicapped guys how to pick up chicks. The show got me thinking that I actually do have a small arsenal of knowledge that helped me to get a lot of dates over the years. I live in Newport Beach but I am definitely not the typical manufactured blonde, fake boobied , size 0, starving model that is native to the region. At first glance I know that I am not what most men are looking for in Orange County. Regardless, I have been able to get dates with all kinds of attractive men over the years. So here are a few tips for you (guys and girls) that might be useful (or might be annoying depending on how you use them). (more…)

I Have a Nice Rack But No One Wants to Touch It: Confessions of a Sexually Starved "Hottie."

May 20, 2009

I have a nice rack. It’s basically a fact. And that rhyme is whiggity wack! Okay all joking aside:  Being in possession of said nice rack from the tender age of 13 I must admit I have misused it from time to time, yes sometimes it can be a crutch and used for the powers of evil!  By evil, of course I mean getting things for free that other less fortunate women not in possession of a nice rack must pay for: Drinks, free oil changes, backstage passes (yes I am serious),  free Starbucks (yes coffee!). Oh the list could go on and actually it does go on. So logic would dictate that if nothing else, my rack would allow me to excel in the dating world and in turn in the hot loving/make out world. It’s really a simple mathematical equation: If B (breasts) then C (copious making out). (more…)

The Risk of Falling.

May 19, 2009

Lloyd Dobler stood outside Diane Court’s window with a boom box over his head to win her back. Jake Ryan showed up to Sam Baker’s sisters wedding to sweep her off her feet. Mr. Big flew to Paris to get Carrie back. What if to take a chance on something or someone you thought could make you happy required you to act in a way that seemed foreign, uncomfortable like the aforementioned gentleman? Would it be worth it if in the end you found some treasure you couldn’t have without the sacrifice and momentary abandon of sanity? Would that make it right, okay, better, enough? Perhaps, but isn’t that the very nature of falling in love, reckless abandon, letting down our guard, opening up and inviting someone into our hearts and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable. Love and the pursuit of it can be as risky and thrilling as a high stakes poker game. (more…)

Which Side Are You On?

May 3, 2009

There is a theory in relationships that there is always one person that is slightly more attached than the other (and sometimes it happens to be more than just slightly). In very long-term relationships, this can go back and forth between the two people, each one taking their turn being more attached. Sometimes it just happens on its own, and sometimes an event can trigger this change. (more…)