Archive for the ‘For Men’ Category

Wooing Women With Baby Powder? Ugh.

November 10, 2009

I waited at Ruby’s for three hours tonight for Staff to arrive. Okay, well, I worked on some writing for two hours and then waited for Staff for the last. Still, three hours sounds so much better. He wanted Pinkberry and I find it unreasonable to say no to such things. We got our amazing-life-changing-yogurt-goodness and went on our outdoor mall walk. I like walking with Staff. He tells me everything I have to say is full of crap. I pretend not to listen to him. It’s a great friendship. (more…)


How Do Men & Women Remember a Relationship?

October 30, 2009

I was out with a female friend of mine not too long ago.  We were talking about relationships and what not.  We took up the topic of the things that we remember about relationships and what meaning we derive from them.  I found this discussion intriguing because, well, I’d never really thought too much about it.  So how do men and women view relationships in retrospect, when all is said and done? (more…)

What Women (really) Want.

October 26, 2009

I recently read a book about unveiling the mystery of a woman’s soul and I gleaned some good dating tips in the process. Basically the book states that there are 3 things every woman’s soul longs for: to be pursued, to feel beautiful and be part of an adventure. I happen to identify with these desires and I figured I would elaborate a bit on the topic to help the men out a bit. (more…)

5 Important Traits of a Good Girlfriend.

October 22, 2009

I have asked some of my guy friends about what they think makes for a good girlfriend/partner in a relationship. Most of the time my friends said sex. That was it. Just sex. Well, I did get a few other nuggets out of them when I pressed for deeper and more meaningful answers.

On Opposite Sides.

September 11, 2009

Opposites attract but do they stay together? Relationships that last are generally based on common interests, goals, values and ambitions. Attraction is essential but without the emotional and intellectual connection there can’t be much depth to a relationship. When dating we are putting the best version of ourselves out there. We are dressed to impress, we are polite, we are on our best behavior in the hope that we can go on a second date with this person if all goes well. But beyond the looking good and light first date conversation there are the real issues that need to be addressed before a relationship can continue. Typically the heavy issues such as religion, politics, children and the future are off limit topics for the early stages of dating. While I somewhat agree with that, how long do these topics need to be avoided? (more…)

Common Courtesy.

July 5, 2009

“When did common courtesy become so uncommon?”

When it comes to dating there are some instances where courtesy is lacking. Maybe women have lowered their expectations and that’s why when a man holds open the door for us we are surprised. Or when a guy has enough guts to tell us he isn’t interested we are taken aback. (more…)

Walking a Fine Line.

July 5, 2009

Bars represent a multitude of opportunities for meeting and hitting on the opposite sex.  This was never made more clear to me than last night when my girls and I hit the town.  Newly single, I was ready to test the waters and get the ego boost that getting hit on by a random guy can singularly provide. (more…)

Can Men and Women be Friends? A Female Perspective.

June 20, 2009

I have discussed this topic with two men recently and they both seemed to have the same point of view on the topic. Women and men can be friends but one person is always going to be attracted to the other even if the attraction is long harbored or fleeting. I think that is absolutely absurd. And yes I have reason’s to back it up. My point of view, yes women and men can be just friends in the most platonic sense of the word. (more…)

Dating Tips & Quips.

June 7, 2009

Shamefully I admit that I was fascinated by the VH1 show “The Pick Up Artist”. Basically some guys who have good game teach several nerdy, socially handicapped guys how to pick up chicks. The show got me thinking that I actually do have a small arsenal of knowledge that helped me to get a lot of dates over the years. I live in Newport Beach but I am definitely not the typical manufactured blonde, fake boobied , size 0, starving model that is native to the region. At first glance I know that I am not what most men are looking for in Orange County. Regardless, I have been able to get dates with all kinds of attractive men over the years. So here are a few tips for you (guys and girls) that might be useful (or might be annoying depending on how you use them). (more…)

Which Side Are You On?

May 3, 2009

There is a theory in relationships that there is always one person that is slightly more attached than the other (and sometimes it happens to be more than just slightly). In very long-term relationships, this can go back and forth between the two people, each one taking their turn being more attached. Sometimes it just happens on its own, and sometimes an event can trigger this change. (more…)