Archive for the ‘Dating & Relationships’ Category

Dating Your Friend's Ex. The Ultimate Smite, or a Prelude to "Hugging it Out?"

November 16, 2009

This post isn’t really looking to offer any sort of advice really.  More or less I’m just unleashing some unsightly “thought vomit.”  You see, I’ve had this conversation before: Should you or shouldn’t you date your friend’s exes?  It’s a good question.  Most people I’ve talked to have a pretty hardliner stance on the whole thing.  However, I’ve been on both ends of this powder keg of a discussion… (more…)

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Making Plans

November 6, 2009

Somewhere along the lines, I heard what I think is a great piece of dating advice.
Never make plans for the future that are further in the future than your past together.

In other words, if you’ve been dating for a week, don’t make plans past next week. If you’ve been dating for three months, don’t make plans more than 3 months in the future.

Its a great rule of thumb to keep yourselves from getting too far ahead of yourselves, and I think it makes you less likely to buy that plane ticket to Thailand that you might regret after you learn more about the person you’re dating. It also keeps you from freaking the other person out with stuff that isn;’t first date material – i.e. until you’ve actually raised a child and sent him off to college, don’t talk about taking your grandkids to Disney. I’ve never seen anyone go that far, but I have known people to get way ahead of themselves.

Relax, enjoy the natural progression of things.

How do You Deal with Your Significant Other's Best Friend of the Opposite Sex?

November 5, 2009

This is a topic that, surprisingly, I don’t tend to discuss a lot with my friends.  I say “surprisingly” because most anyone that knows me knows that I feel that true friendships between men and women can’t exist without some sort of latent attraction, which has the potential to “blow the whole thing up!”  Needless to say, I’m likely in the minority on that opinion.  However, the thing that intrigues me is how a couple regards each others’ best friends, if they’re of the opposite sex.  Is there some dynamic to worry about?  Do you protest the friendship?  Do you limit how often your partner hangs out with their best friend?  What do you do? (more…)

What's the Worst Dating Advice You've Received?

October 21, 2009

Advice.  It’s defined as “a proposal for an appropriate course of action”. I’ve given a lot of advice to people, some I know and some I don’t know.  Some of this advice is pretty good, while other advice I’ve doled out has been pretty damn awful.  Like that time I told Jason Rybka in high school that the sore on Jenny Gardner’s lip was nothing to worry about…  Sorry dude.  Anyway, good advice is sage; something that can surely help you avert disaster.  However, poor advice… Poor advice gets people punched in the baby-maker.  True story.  I’ve seen that TV show, ‘Cheaters,’ and I know what’s up!  By the way, brilliant freaking show.  Right up there with ‘Celebrity Boxing,’ but I digress.  So I was thinking about bad dating advice that I’ve been given over the years.  Man… I either need to stop taking advice from my friends or stop being so naive!!! (more…)

Timing is Everything.

September 27, 2009

Timing is everything in life. In dating it could make or break a relationship. Two people who are wonderful for each other may meet but they are in different places so it never works out. (more…)

Irreconcilable (Sexual) Differences.

September 27, 2009

There comes a point in every person’s life when they have bad sex.  Maybe it was awkward, or you have a different style than the other person.  Maybe they simply didn’t know what they were doing, or you were unable to communicate exactly what you wanted from them.

But what happens when you have tried patiently to explain what you like and what you don’t and the person simply doesn’t pay attention?  This situation becomes even worse when the other person claims that the sex is the best they have ever had. Is this something that can be conquered in a relationship?  If one person is unhappy with the sex, is it something that can be simply overlooked after time?  Will feelings for the other person overcome the lack of physical desire?  Or will it turn in to bitter resentment that one person is satisfied and the other isn’t? (more…)

On Opposite Sides.

September 11, 2009

Opposites attract but do they stay together? Relationships that last are generally based on common interests, goals, values and ambitions. Attraction is essential but without the emotional and intellectual connection there can’t be much depth to a relationship. When dating we are putting the best version of ourselves out there. We are dressed to impress, we are polite, we are on our best behavior in the hope that we can go on a second date with this person if all goes well. But beyond the looking good and light first date conversation there are the real issues that need to be addressed before a relationship can continue. Typically the heavy issues such as religion, politics, children and the future are off limit topics for the early stages of dating. While I somewhat agree with that, how long do these topics need to be avoided? (more…)

Timing's the Thing.

August 6, 2009

There is a theory that exists that states that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new.  This leads many a person to move from relationship to rebound. (more…)

Breaking Down the Breakup.

August 5, 2009

Breakups are the worst. No, they are the worst of the worse. It doesn’t matter if you dated for a decade or for a few months, they are awkward uncomfortable, heartbreaking, emotional and on the rare occasion violent events. In my experience there is no escaping the heartbreak of a break up despite what end of the bad news you are on, but there are ways to make dealing with it easier. (more…)

6 Things You Shouldn't Do On a Date.

July 9, 2009

There are many things that should go without saying with respect to dating etiquette, in general. What do I mean? Well there are some very common things that one should avoid when on a date, or even setting up a date. Common things that, people with common sense would know are wrong… What do I mean? I’m getting to it, sheesh! Common sense isn’t all that common these days and certainly no place is more void of common sense than the arena of dating. I’m talking about both the guys and girls here, everyone. (more…)