Timing is Everything.

Timing is everything in life. In dating it could make or break a relationship. Two people who are wonderful for each other may meet but they are in different places so it never works out.

“Two people can be perfect for each other but if the timing’s wrong it’s never going to work out. Bad timing is the reason that most normal people end up single. Weirdos and creeps are single cause they are weirdand creepy but people like us are single because we are victims of badtiming.”
– Jon Favereau

How do you know if the timing is right? In the beginning it’s a bit hard to tell. There is that initial infatuation that clouds the mind and makes even clear obstacles appear non-existent. Once the infatuation chemicals stop multiplying in your brain you have to make the choice if including this person in your life is worth the time. I think it’s a gut feeling. While the old adage “You will just know” aggravates me, it’s mostly true. Go with your instincts and if it is right maybe it will work out now or sometime down the line. Getting back together is not generally the best idea but in some cases the second time is the right time. Let the relationship take its natural course.

In dating time is important not only because of timing but also having time for your significant other. If you’re too busy to have a relationship then don’t pursue one. Be honest with the people you are dating and let them know from the start that time isn’t a luxury you have so that you don’t waste any of theirs. There is nothing wrong with casual dating as long as both parties are informed of the arrangement. I have friends whom no desire for a long term committed relationship right now. They just don’t have the time for it. I think if they met the right person that would change but so far it hasn’t. When the right person comes along making time for them is never an issue.


Which leads me to my next point, they say love comes along when you least expect it and when you aren’t looking for it. A friend and I were discussing this and I said that I met someone really great because I wasn’t looking for it to happen. He said that regardless of the fact that I was or wasn’t looking I still would have met this person. When we are looking for love I think we put out a much different vibe than when we are just living our life, doing what makes us happy. He insisted that looking or not looking for love has nothing to do with finding it. Leading your life, working on something that you are passionate about, enjoying life is the most attractive thing a person can do. So I guess we are both right in some sense.

Love usually comes along when it’s completely inconvenient as well. When we swear off dating, when we are reeling from a break up, when we are getting ready to leave, when we are in love with someone else, these are the moments when love comes. It’s important to embrace these moments and give them a chance. Timing can be good and bad, right and wrong and ultimately timing can be the very reason a relationship ends or flourishes.


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