Confessions of a Jerk | A Bad Break Up.

February 1, 2010

There are times when a person reflects on the past and upon that reflection a person may realize that there’s something they could have done better. In particular, I’m referring to a break up with an ex.  One that happened some time ago.  Upon further reflection, I think there was a better way to do it.  At the time, though, it made for a funny story.  Actually, it still makes me snicker and those that I tell the story to as well.  So… What was so bad? Read the rest of this entry »


A Lonely Undead Flesh Eater Seeks the Same for Possible Romance

November 18, 2009

Sometimes I really do wonder why I never think of things like this, the Zombie dating profile.  The best random thing I can come up with sometimes is Testicle Kicking contests or midget tossing… sigh

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Gelato: Real Dating In Real Time

November 17, 2009

Gelato is the next generation of online dating. Instead of canned profiles and a bunch of questions of who you are or what you like, you can instead import the same information with less effort and more accuracy from the sites you use every day. Not only that, but your profile is updated constantly by your activity on those other sites.

There are no passwords to forget, simply sign in through Twitter or Facebook and import the data you want. This makes up most of your profile on Gelato.

Sure sure, if you want your regular “I like to take long walks on the beach” typed in profile, there is a space for that, but its not really needed.

Through your online updates, people can really get to know you. The real you. In real time. Your stream says a lot about you and your interests making it much easier for someone who shares those interests to find you.

Gelato also doesn’t limit its information to Twitter and Facebook. Gelato allows you import data from many of your favorite sites to help further your chances of finding a good match.

Music Buff? Rather than having your fingers fall off trying to type your list of favorite songs. Instead, you can add feeds from Pandora or

Photographer? You can import your Flickr.

Movies or TV more your thing? Import feeds from Hulu and Netflix.

You can also import information from Seesmic and Amazon.

Our creator, Steve Odom has made it so that with Gelato, you don’t have to work so hard to just be yourself. With our stream and the variety of imported information you choose, the old standby profiles are yesterday.

One of the greatest things though about Gelato is that with our feeds we make it hard to be fake. On normal sites with simple written profiles, its easy to lie and misrepresent yourself. With our feeds, it takes a whole lot more effort on quite a few other sites to really pull it off.

We’re all about genuine people finding like-minded people. That makes for better dates. And that is Gelato.

Dating Your Friend's Ex. The Ultimate Smite, or a Prelude to "Hugging it Out?"

November 16, 2009

This post isn’t really looking to offer any sort of advice really.  More or less I’m just unleashing some unsightly “thought vomit.”  You see, I’ve had this conversation before: Should you or shouldn’t you date your friend’s exes?  It’s a good question.  Most people I’ve talked to have a pretty hardliner stance on the whole thing.  However, I’ve been on both ends of this powder keg of a discussion… Read the rest of this entry »

Before You Put a Ring On It…

November 13, 2009

I seem to be at the age where all my friends are pairing off and purchasing diamonds and white dresses. The people I grew up with are becoming husbands and wives and starting their lives together. While of course I am happy that they have found “The One” I am still nagged by the question, How do you know when it’s the one? And if you do know it’s the “The One” why do you need to put a ring on it?

My relationship history coupled with horror stories has long made me wary of the whole marriage thing. If you are together and you are committed and you’re happy why do you need to change your last name and make your friends wear ugly matching dresses and throw an expensive party to tell everyone, “Look we are SO in love! So buy a crystal vase we will never use to commemorate the day we made that love legal.”

My aversion to marriage only grew with the passing of Prop 8 in CA but this is no time for that discussion. I think the root of this allergy I seem to have to marriage is the process of broaching all the major subjects: kids, place where you will live, buying a home, bank accounts, etc. Also the idea of forever seems a bit intimidating in this short life. I cannot imagine getting divorced. Marriage is something that I want to last and some people seem to enter into so lightly. I am a fiercely independent person who doesn’t necessarily want to change my last name. Because once that paperwork is filed I’m not going to stand in the DMV line again to change my last name back on my license!

Yes I believe in love. Yes I am a sucker for romance. Yes I believe compromise is the key to a long lasting relationship. My parents are the poster couple of a loving happy marriage. They are in the minority. They make me optimistic that I can find a love that will last and despite my cynicism regarding marriage it’s possible to form a life long connection with someone. But no I don’t think you need a piece of paper from city hall to make it work. Before entering any long-term commitment there are certain questions one needs answered. Vow swapping or not a couple needs to settle the issue of children, where they will live and religion. These are matters that compromise is not going to work with.

I admire couples who have opposing faiths and still marry. If they can make it work good for them, however the odds are not stacked in their favor. And let’s be reasonable it’s not as if you can have a part time child together. If you have the money then I guess the bicoastal home is an option.

Besides having to be in harmony with all the major life decisions you also have to know that this person that you love is “The One”. How can anyone be 100% sure of that? How can you forsake all others and dedicate yourself to one person not knowing if your feeling will change? Maybe I am a fickle person or maybe I haven’t met the elusive “One”. I know that once upon a time I thought I had met my “One” and that fell apart terribly and I have since been cautious as to letting other’s in. But I also know that the overwhelming love I felt for that person has occurred again in my life with two other people but they always had the option to leave. That option to leave is still there whether or not a ring is involved. Divorce is as common as anything these days. Plus I like having the option to leave without having to get lawyers involved.

Maybe there isn’t just one person there can be several “Ones” and we can happy however it plays out. It seems too often the pressure to get married and start a family is the motivation behind proposal among people my age. They are expected by society standards that this what you do at this age. What happens if you never make it official? If you stay with the same person for many years and never make it legal. Isn’t that just as good as being married? I think so. I say what’s the hurry? Why the need for a giant shiny rock? Take your time and truly get to know one another and after many years together that loving feeling is still strong then I guess make it official if not for anything besides the tax break.

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November 12, 2009

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When Good Sex Goes Bad

November 12, 2009

We have all had them in life… the “buddy” that only stays around because the sex is good.  Every time we get out of a semi-meaningful relationship, they are the first person we call.  It helps us to forget about what we are now out of and helps us to feel good and sexy again.  Plus, there is just something to be said about good sex making you forget about everything else in life.

But what happens when you get together that one time… and the sex is no longer good?  It never fails that one person becomes dissatisfied with the sex before the other.  How do you let the other person down gently?  You don’t want to criticize their skills in the sack.  But you are also no longer interested in hooking up with them.

But then the question becomes this: do you pass off the one bad time as a fluke?  Was it just a bad day?  Or is it something that will continue if you get together again?  And, are you even willing to get together with them again?  If the only reason you meet up with them is because the sex is good, and it no longer is, then is it worth seeing them anymore?

Unfortunately there is no gentle way to let someone know that you no longer want to be their buddy.  If you have moved in to a new relationship, it is quite simple.  But if you just don’t want to see them anymore, what can you do?  For a while, you can turn them down saying you have other plans and that you are busy.  But you can only be busy for so long.  In the end you have to explain to them that you are no longer interested in sleeping with them.  If only they made a Hallmark card for that…

Wooing Women With Baby Powder? Ugh.

November 10, 2009

I waited at Ruby’s for three hours tonight for Staff to arrive. Okay, well, I worked on some writing for two hours and then waited for Staff for the last. Still, three hours sounds so much better. He wanted Pinkberry and I find it unreasonable to say no to such things. We got our amazing-life-changing-yogurt-goodness and went on our outdoor mall walk. I like walking with Staff. He tells me everything I have to say is full of crap. I pretend not to listen to him. It’s a great friendship. Read the rest of this entry »

Not Business as Usual. Social Network Powered Dating FTW.

November 10, 2009

I consider myself a battle hardened and tested veteran of the dating game. A first class adept of the first date. Sure, some of you may think I’ve never enjoyed the touch of a woman above the knee, but I’ll let you know that I have done it and I haven’t had to pay for it…

I’m not sure what the above has to do with this post, just follow me, okay. With the adoption of social networks by the masses to share information and collaborate it has created this gigantic cyber vacuum for people to connect in ways that weren’t really possible… Change is on the horizon, friends.
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There's a Plot to Revolutionize Online Dating. Are You In?

November 9, 2009

Recently Alex aka ‘Yannibmbr,’ tracked down Ross Felix, CEO of a new and exciting online dating site,  We wanted to know why we should care about this site and the services it’s looking to offer to the single and lovelorn of the world.  As it turns out, Ross has a plan, no, a scheme; a plot to revolutionize online dating and he’s looking for a few good singles… Are you brave enough to find the truth and take up the Dating Revolution?  Read the rest of this entry »